“I would rather be real and wrecked than fake and fine.”
“Fine” is the costume we wear when we are afraid to tell the truth. “I am fine.” “It is fine.” “Everything is fine.” It is the mask that smooths over the cracks, keeps the peace, and convinces the world we are holding it together.
But here is the slap: fine is not peace. It is pretense.
Being “fake and fine” may win you approval, but it robs you of aliveness. It keeps you performing when your Spirit is begging for release. It looks neat on the outside but eats you alive on the inside. And every time you say “fine” when you mean “wrecked,” you are trading authenticity for survival — and survival is not the same as living.
Real and wrecked? That is where freedom lives. When you are wrecked, you are raw, stripped. You are standing in truth without the costume. And yes, it is messy and uncomfortable. It rattles people who only loved your mask. But it is also real. And real is the only place transformation can happen.
The world does not need more polished “fine.” It needs more people brave enough to say, “I am not fine — but I am here, and I am real.” Because wrecked is where the healing begins. Wrecked is where you stop performing and start living.
So, choose it: real over fake. Wrecked over fine. Truth over performance. Because a messy, honest life will always beat a polished lie.
More Food For Thought:
Where am I still pretending to be “fine” when I am actually not?
What has being fake and fine cost me in energy, connection, or peace?
What freedom might open if I allowed myself to be real — even if it looks wrecked?
Fine is a façade. Wrecked is real. And real is where you come alive.
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