Denial in Yoga Pants: When Positivity Keeps You Stuck

Positivity gets a lot of praise in spiritual circles. We are told to stay high-vibe, focus on gratitude, and trust that everything is unfolding exactly as it should. And while there is truth in those ideas, there is also a shadow side that rarely gets talked about.

That shadow is denial.

In Spiritual Bitch Slap, I talk openly about how denial does not always look dramatic or destructive. Sometimes it looks calm, polite, responsible. Sometimes denial wears yoga pants, drinks green juice, and calls itself growth.

We use phrases like:

• “It is what it is.”

• “Everything happens for a reason.”

• “At least it is not worse.”

• “I just need to be more positive.”

These statements sound enlightened, but they often function as emotional duct tape. They hold things together just long enough for us to avoid looking at what is actually going on underneath.

Real spirituality does not bypass discomfort. It moves through it.

Denial is not the absence of awareness…it is the refusal to stay with it. It is knowing something is not right and choosing to explain it away rather than confront it. And the problem with denial is not moral or personal; it is energetic. What we refuse to acknowledge does not disappear. It waits.

Truth has patience. But it does not go away.

When positivity is used to avoid truth, healing stalls. We do not move forward…we loop. The same patterns repeat with different faces. The same lessons arrive wearing different costumes. And each time, the message gets a little louder.

That is when people say, “Why does this keep happening to me?”

The answer is usually uncomfortable: because the lesson has not been integrated yet.

Honesty does not mean being negative. It means being real. It means allowing yourself to say, “This hurts bad,” without rushing to fix it. It means admitting that something is not aligned even if you do not yet know what comes next.

Spiritual maturity is not measured by how calm you look. It is measured by how honest you are willing to be.

Denial delays healing. Truth accelerates it.

And when we refuse to listen to truth when it whispers, life has a way of raising its voice. That is not cruelty…it is compassion.

If this challenges you, it is meant to. Spiritual Bitch Slap is an invitation to stop bypassing, stop pretending, and start healing honestly.
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