The Slap Is Not Punishment—It Is Course Correction

When life falls apart, most of us assume we have failed.

A relationship ends. A job disappears. A health issue surfaces. A sense of purpose evaporates. And our first instinct is to ask, “What did I do wrong?”

I want to offer you a different perspective.

In Spiritual Bitch Slap, I talk a lot about the idea that breakdowns are rarely punishment. More often, they are redirection. Course correction. The universe tapping you on the shoulder and saying, “This is not it anymore.”

We confuse stability with alignment. Just because something lasts a long time does not mean it is right. Just because something collapses does not mean it was wrong…it may simply be complete.

The universe does not destroy what is aligned.
It removes what is false.

Rock bottom is not the end of the road. It is the moment truth finally has your full attention. It is a trampoline.

Most of us do not change when things are comfortable. We change when staying becomes more painful than leaving. That is when the slap shows up…not as cruelty, but as mercy.

If you are in the middle of something falling apart, ask yourself this:
What truth has been trying to get my attention for a long time?

Because once you see the slap as guidance instead of punishment, you stop fighting it. You stop trying to rebuild what no longer fits. And you start listening.

And listening changes everything.

This reframing is a core theme in Spiritual Bitch Slap. If you are navigating a breakdown or transition, the book offers clarity, grounding, and perspective.
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